Judy and Kelvin’s Engagement FAQ
Kai and Lillian warned me of questions, so here’s a FAQ for some of them. I’ll add more when I can think of more or people ask me more stuff.
When did you get engaged? March 27th, 2007.
Have you guys set a date? No. It’s not going to be at least for another year or so, when Kelvin finishes school. According to my mom, he needs to have a full-time job, too. Besides, this whole marriage thing is still intimidating, and just the thought of planning a wedding scares me. Yep. November 1st, 2008.
How did he propose? Read this.
Were you expecting it? Not really. I did consider it a small possibility, but only because it’s always a possibility since we’ve been dating so long… but I didn’t think it would actually happen anytime soon. I actually thought he would propose in October, when he planned a date for the first time ever (by planned, I mean we set a date to go out together with just us two… all we did was go watch the very unromantic movie, The Prestige). And I also had complained about how unromantic he was on Valentine’s Day, so I thought that dinner was just a make-up date. We certainly hadn’t discussed getting engaged and only talked about marriage in a very-distant-future manner.
Let me see the ring! Here’s a couple pictures from my gallery:
It’s a white gold ring with a single diamond in a tension setting. (If you want more details, feel free to ask me personally.)
Do you like the ring? I love it! It’s simple and elegant and even a little nerdy… definitely my style. I’d say it’s pretty much perfect, except it’s not engraved. But Kelvin said he didn’t do that because he’d have a harder time reselling it with an engraving if I rejected him :P
How did Kelvin know what to get you? I guess it’s a combination of him being smart and knowing me so well, because I gave him no input on what sort of ring I wanted. I wasn’t looking to get engaged anytime soon, so it’s not like I was dropping hints. He said he spent a lot of time researching rings and trying to figure out what I’d like, and even just ordering the ring to have it made gave him a lot of stress. The ring size he got from stealing my class ring, which I often forget to put back on after a shower.
How did your families react to the news? Kelvin’s family was hunky-dory; he had told all of them of his plans beforehand and had gotten help with ring/proposal stuff from them. Their reaction was to have a party for the engagement :) My mother found out right after the proposal dinner. I believe she was slightly irked, with her first comment upon me showing her the ring was, “How much did that ring cost?” And then she gave Kelvin a hard time for not being more traditional and asking her permission beforehand (and something about bribing her with Chinese bridal cakes… but I think she just wanted sweets). She made it clear he still needs to finish school and get a job before any marriage can happen and that he has to treat me right or she’ll kick his butt. I tell other people about this reaction, and people think that she doesn’t like Kelvin, but she does. It’s just how my mom is. She said in Chinese tradition, the son-in-law is 50% your son. Since we’re engaged, she considers him 25% her son now, which apparently is enough to get him keys to the house :P My dad seems cool with it, and my relatives in Taiwan, particularly my grandparents, seem happy about the whole thing, too.
How does it feel to be engaged? Thankfully, it doesn’t feel much different than before we were engaged.
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